Imagining a Better Body Image

I would be so much happier if there were so much less of me!

I’m really struggling with fashion right now. It started when I saw one of those weight loss commercials, one where the women tell how much weight they’ve lost. This segment was introduced by the line “these women have lost significant amounts of weight”. Then each woman proudly said how much weight they had lost. I’m ashamed to say how much weight I need to lose, but one woman who had lost “a significant amount of weight” had lost how much I need to lose. That was a shock. Of course I know how much I need to lose. But the amount has hovered somewhere in the back of my conscious mind, while I told myself I just need to lose a few pounds. It really upset me to realize how much I need to lose.

My first response to this was to stop writing the blog. I thought, how can I keep writing about fashion and posting pictures of myself online when I am so ashamed of how I look? The thought snuck into my mind that maybe I could write about plus size fashion, at least until I lose weight. But who really wants to call themselves ‘plus size’? Obviously no one! Of course they might say they are proud of their bodies, but I have to say it, I think they’re lying!

So I thought, even if I do keep writing, I want to stop posting pictures.  Because normally, if I had this kind of feeling, I would just quit the whole thing. I see all the pictures other fashion bloggers post, and compared to them I am grossly fat.  I have bought a lot of clothes that were only available in smaller sizes, like one or two sizes down. So there are beautiful clothes in my wardrobe that I cannot wear. And each time I see them I feel worse than the last time.

So this post is my attempt to carry on.

Momchic

 

 

I’m so sure I already wrote this post, so if it is here under a different name let me know! It could just be that I have written it in my head!

There are certain times when, as a mom, you just can’t take the time to really put together an outfit, do your hair, and put on makeup. If you’re like me, you have a 9 month-old climbing you constantly. That is guaranteed to make getting ready at least 1,000 times harder! My son is old enough that he gets ready on his own. But he does slow me down by constantly nagging me to hurry!
This kind of pressure occasionally forces me to choose to go “momchic”. To put it simply, momchic is clean, neat, and put together. Momchic outfits tend to be more on the classic side. This may sound awful, but basically in our town momchic could be anything better than an old baggy t-shirt and cutoffs. That type of outfit is usually completed by flip-flops, and an occasional scrunchie. In short, the style is somewhere between “I’m comfortable” and “at least it’s clean”.

But I have to stop right here and say that there’s nothing wrong with dressing this way if it works for you. For years I was probably on the lower end of that scale! I spend more time on what I wear now for the simple reason that I became interested in fashion. Here, in smalltown America, fashion per se is a hobby. At times I am overdressed for going grocery shopping, or taking my kids to the doctor. I dress the way I do now because I have become fascinated with fashion. It is a big interest in my life, as I have said elsewhere fashion is the medium of my art for right now.

I came up with the term momchic when we were on our last trip. We went to Baltimore and Dc for a few days each. The purpose of this trip was the Dolphin Immersion Tour at the National Aquarium in Baltimore. I love dolphins, and when I was researching an Aquarium visit I noticed that it was possible to do the Dolphin Immersion tour, where you go on the training deck with the trainers and interact with the dolphins, leading them in some tricks and even touching the dolphins! The trip centered around this, and visiting the National Zoo in DC. We did much more than that, including the Inner Harbor historic ships tour, where we visited the lighthouse, a world war II submarine, and a WWII coast guard lightship. We went to the Ripley’s museum at the Inner Harbor, then took off for DC. Once there we spent one day at the Air and Space museum, and the next day at the zoo. I had planned on visiting the Museum of Natural History and the Museum of American History, but we ran out of time, and energy!
I had done a pretty good job of packing, but I had packed 2 slightly more dressy outfits, and I really didn’t need those at all. I followed a basic rule of packing, including a few nice outfits ‘just in case’. But now, I do ‘momchic packing’ which would mean a slightly dressy casual outfit, an old get-dirty-in outfit, a denim mini skirt, and several simple tops. When we went to the Zoo, I wore the t shirt I got for doing the Dolphin Immersion, with my denim mini, comfortable thong sandals (with bling!), and my ever faithful chewbeads. With this I wore my favorite silver tassle earrings and my custom silver necklace with my children’s names and birthstones on it. I had put on a touch of makeup, enough to make me feel pretty. For that day, I still couldn’t resist carrying my Ralph Lauren tote. I love that bag!

So basically momchic is about simple, comfortable clothes that look great. This is the time to wear your mom jewelry (though I wear mine all the time!) This is also when you proudly put on any tees or hoodies labeled with your children’s sports teams or special interests, like my Dolphin Immersion tour tee. If your kids are old enough, you might want to wear their school colors. My daughter is young enough to do the “mommy and me” look. I haven’t done that yet. I’m never sure if it is cute or tacky! But I think Katie and Suri did it, so it might be ok.
Of course, with Fall upon us, we can dress in the usual fall classics of deep reds and russet tones (that is straight off of the Trend List on Style tv).
Another fall trend I think many moms will love is the baggy sweater. When I heard that I wanted to jump up and cheer! Jeans or leggings and a big baggy sweater are so comfortable!

For many women at our age and financial bracket, momchic might be the closest they come to current fashion. But if that is what you like, go for it! A loving mom beats high fashion every time!

Saturday in Colonial Beach

we never quite fit into a picture. this is me, my son, and if you can see her, i am also holding my baby daughter.

There’s not much to do in our town, where we have one stoplight, one fast food place (McDonalds), and one grocery store (Food Lion). But at the end of summer, between his birthday and mine*, my son and i like to take long walks around town. We stop by the ice cream stand. They know we want one medium and one large chocolate cone. We ordered 2 mediums for years, but now my son just has to have a large. This is my daughter’s first autumn, so she gets to see it all from her stroller.
Leaving the ice cream stand, we walk down the boardwalk, looking at the waves while we eat our ice cream. There is a vintage shop down on Hawthorne st., called Esco Limited. That is our ultimate destination. Correction: it is my ultimate destination. They have a great collection of vintage clothes, in brands like Liz Claiborne, Tommy Hilfigger, Anne Klein, and Anne Taylor, as well as some unique european brands. It didn’t take me long to spend about $150.00, but when the prices are from $5 to $20, it is money well spent!
Yesterday, I was specifically looking for vintage pieces to create an original outfit for Fashion’s Night Out. I know FNO was September 6. But here in Colonial Beach, I might be the only person who even knows what FNO is. I gave myself permission to spend the week creating my personal FNO look. I’m going for fancy vintage, for lack of a better term. I mean clothes that are dressy and vintage, along with a collection of colorful costume jewelry. The idea I have in my head would look fabulous! But since I’m so fat, I’m just hoping for the best.
Yesterday, a fast-moving storm came out of nowhere. That cut our shopping trip short, but my son had found around 12 vintage superhero comic books, so he was happy. I left the store feeling like i had practically stolen those clothes, and intending to go back for the things i didn’t buy that day. The owner’s husband drove us home, and i joyfully started trying on my new clothes.
My son, of course, dropped into his bean bag and started reading one of his comics, and my 9 month old went to sleep.
I”t was a good Saturday.

Handmade Journal

I got this journal today, ordered it on Wednesday from nibandquill, a shop i found on etsy. The shop is out of Winchester, VA, which is only about an hour from my hometown.  I love the look and feel of the journal! It’s sure to inspire me. It comes wrapped in plain brown paper and tied with twine. Tucked in all around are little scraps of paper, sheet music and an illustration from Alice in Wonderland. It’s right in the style of GRIFFIN AND SABINE, if anyone remembers that book from the 90s.

journal from nibandquill

just got this today, ordered only a few days ago. i’ll have to write some really good stuff in this journal!